Family Court Support

Show consistent love and effort — safely and respectfully.

“I never stopped trying. Here’s the proof.”

Why this can help

  • Document consistent effort: time-stamped messages build a steady record over weeks and months.
  • Stay child-centred: love, steadiness, and encouragement — appropriate for any age.
  • Respect boundaries: a private, low-pressure way to remain present without exposing children to conflict.

Do

  • Write with warmth and patience.
  • Share memories, affirmations, and gentle encouragement.
  • Keep messages suitable for any age.
  • Be consistent (weekly or fortnightly).
  • Ask your lawyer how best to present your record.

Don’t

  • Blame or attack the other parent.
  • Discuss court strategy or adult disputes.
  • Pressure the child to choose sides.
  • Bypass court orders or directives.
  • Promise outcomes you can’t control.

How to use MessageDrift responsibly

  • Set a rhythm: pick a predictable day so your record shows stability.
  • Keep tone steady: “I’m proud of you.” “I’m thinking of you.” “I’m here when you’re ready.”
  • Mark milestones: birthdays, school terms, small wins — briefly and kindly.
  • Keep contact current: update your details so there’s a gentle path back when the time is right.

Short message examples

Supportive

  • “Thinking of you today. I hope school felt calm. I’m always cheering for you.”
  • “Happy birthday, champ. I love you and I’m proud of who you’re becoming.”
  • “I saved your drawing from 2022. It still makes me smile. I love you.”

Milestones

  • “First day of Term 4 — you’ve got this. I believe in you.”
  • “I planted a lemon tree for us today. Can’t wait to make lemonade together one day.”
  • “Grandad told me your joke — still laughing! You’re brilliant.”

Evidence & disclosure (general information only)

MessageDrift is not a court filing system. Some parents choose to show their history to a lawyer or mediator to demonstrate calm, child-focused effort. Whether, when, and how to disclose anything is a legal question for your lawyer.

  • Keep it child-safe: avoid adult disputes, blame, or pressure.
  • Stay consistent: a steady cadence often reads better than bursts.
  • Export on advice: use our PDF export only if your lawyer says it’s appropriate.

Privacy & safety

  • Private by default: messages are saved for later discovery; they are not public posts.
  • Contact details: keep yours current; never include the child’s private details or anyone else’s sensitive information.
  • Emergencies: if you or a child is at risk, contact local emergency services before anything else.
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Important: general information only
  • MessageDrift does not provide legal advice and is not a legal service.
  • This page is general information to help you use the product responsibly. It may not apply to your circumstances.
  • Outcomes in family law depend on the facts of your case and the court’s decisions.
  • Before using MessageDrift material in court or sharing it with anyone involved in a dispute, seek advice from a qualified lawyer.
  • If you are in Australia, you can find a lawyer via your state or territory Law Society, Legal Aid, or community legal centres.